Selfish? Maybe Not.
"Rather Be Foolish For The Moment Than To Regret Forever." This is actually a quote from a Chinese song that my cousin listens to.
I believe this topic that we are going to talk about, actually happened to many of you before. Like how you have to make a decision and both sounds equally tempting so you normally end up doing what the majority would do, but end up regretting it.
Whenever we are met with such circumstances, people tend to say like "Choose the wiser choice.", "Go for the one that benefits you the most." Totally agree with them. As humans, we are born to be more selfish when it comes to our own benefits. To those people who say that they can sacrifice themselves for other people's benefits, applause to you then.
I personally have came across many situations where I have to make choices, and it would either end up with me benefitting but hurting people around me or me getting all upset while people around me get away with whatever they want.
In life, I always believe that no matter what we choose, it's our own business, no one should ever interfere with it. Besides, no matter what we've chose, we have to bear all the consequences ourselves, nobody will be there to share this burden with us, so why bother listening to them?
Let me give you all an example,
Example 1:
Imagine, you have been a trainee for 2 years and your wish is to be able to debut as soon as possible. The thing about you is that your vocal isn't bad, it's in fact, above average. Then here we have your best friend. She has been a trainee for 4 years, she has relatively comparable vocals to yours but your vocals still win her by a certain margin. One day, the company told you that you are both able to debut as a singer and it's guaranteed that you can become really popular, but the company can only make one person debut every 2 years, so they told you both that you are given the first priority to make the choice of wanting to debut or not. So if you said you want to debut, your best friend's dream would come crashing down.
Just as though all this aren't enough to make you indecisive, the night before all these happened, you and your best friend had a talk about debuting as a singer. She said that this time round she is sure to debut, because she had been a trainee way longer than you and how her vocals aren't that bad. She also mentioned that if this time round, she doesn't get chosen she would most probably become a laughing stock to the people around her. So how would we actually choose under this circumstance?
One, choose to debut as a guaranteed popular singer and allow your best friend to become a laughing stock and get humiliated?
Two, give your best friend the chance to debut and end up feeling all sour about it?
It might seem like a tough choice, but really, just think about it.
Many people WILL SAY they choose option 2. While minority will be TRUTHFUL enough to say they choose option 1. Call me selfish or whatever you want, but I will choose option 1. It's not that I want to rip off the opportunity my best friend has, but neither do I want to hurt my best friend. I'm choosing option 1 because we need to know that "Opportunities don't come by easily."
Just like the first quote up there, "Rather be foolish for the moment than to regret forever." I would rather seem foolish to others by choosing to debut first and hurt my friend at that moment than to regret for a life's time on how I chose to throw away my chances to become a singer just to seem all so mighty in front of other people.
Through this post, most of you might probably think that I'm a bad friend but we all have to know that, if you are really gonna call that person a friend. Then make sure he/she lives up to that title. If he/she is really a friend, he/she should be happy that you are doing what makes you happy and not be sour about it. Because as friends, we should support one another.
Reality sucks, and we have no choice but to suck it up, so if after this post you realise that some of your so called "friends" aren't true at all, then suck it up and leave them this instant.
What made me want to write about this topic is how I realise we all can't have the best of both worlds. If you want to please the other party and make yourself mad, then by all means. That's your choice anyway, but please don't go to anyone and start complaining about how bad your decision was. So do yourself and everyone a deed by choosing the right choice. At the end of the day, you won't know who will be there to listen to you every single time. Some might stay, some might go. Life is always unpredictable.
I hope this post will come to your mind everytime you make an important decision! So please choose wisely everyone!
Jing Yi
I believe this topic that we are going to talk about, actually happened to many of you before. Like how you have to make a decision and both sounds equally tempting so you normally end up doing what the majority would do, but end up regretting it.
Whenever we are met with such circumstances, people tend to say like "Choose the wiser choice.", "Go for the one that benefits you the most." Totally agree with them. As humans, we are born to be more selfish when it comes to our own benefits. To those people who say that they can sacrifice themselves for other people's benefits, applause to you then.
I personally have came across many situations where I have to make choices, and it would either end up with me benefitting but hurting people around me or me getting all upset while people around me get away with whatever they want.
In life, I always believe that no matter what we choose, it's our own business, no one should ever interfere with it. Besides, no matter what we've chose, we have to bear all the consequences ourselves, nobody will be there to share this burden with us, so why bother listening to them?
Let me give you all an example,
Example 1:
Imagine, you have been a trainee for 2 years and your wish is to be able to debut as soon as possible. The thing about you is that your vocal isn't bad, it's in fact, above average. Then here we have your best friend. She has been a trainee for 4 years, she has relatively comparable vocals to yours but your vocals still win her by a certain margin. One day, the company told you that you are both able to debut as a singer and it's guaranteed that you can become really popular, but the company can only make one person debut every 2 years, so they told you both that you are given the first priority to make the choice of wanting to debut or not. So if you said you want to debut, your best friend's dream would come crashing down.
Just as though all this aren't enough to make you indecisive, the night before all these happened, you and your best friend had a talk about debuting as a singer. She said that this time round she is sure to debut, because she had been a trainee way longer than you and how her vocals aren't that bad. She also mentioned that if this time round, she doesn't get chosen she would most probably become a laughing stock to the people around her. So how would we actually choose under this circumstance?
One, choose to debut as a guaranteed popular singer and allow your best friend to become a laughing stock and get humiliated?
Two, give your best friend the chance to debut and end up feeling all sour about it?
It might seem like a tough choice, but really, just think about it.
Many people WILL SAY they choose option 2. While minority will be TRUTHFUL enough to say they choose option 1. Call me selfish or whatever you want, but I will choose option 1. It's not that I want to rip off the opportunity my best friend has, but neither do I want to hurt my best friend. I'm choosing option 1 because we need to know that "Opportunities don't come by easily."
Just like the first quote up there, "Rather be foolish for the moment than to regret forever." I would rather seem foolish to others by choosing to debut first and hurt my friend at that moment than to regret for a life's time on how I chose to throw away my chances to become a singer just to seem all so mighty in front of other people.
Through this post, most of you might probably think that I'm a bad friend but we all have to know that, if you are really gonna call that person a friend. Then make sure he/she lives up to that title. If he/she is really a friend, he/she should be happy that you are doing what makes you happy and not be sour about it. Because as friends, we should support one another.
Reality sucks, and we have no choice but to suck it up, so if after this post you realise that some of your so called "friends" aren't true at all, then suck it up and leave them this instant.
What made me want to write about this topic is how I realise we all can't have the best of both worlds. If you want to please the other party and make yourself mad, then by all means. That's your choice anyway, but please don't go to anyone and start complaining about how bad your decision was. So do yourself and everyone a deed by choosing the right choice. At the end of the day, you won't know who will be there to listen to you every single time. Some might stay, some might go. Life is always unpredictable.
I hope this post will come to your mind everytime you make an important decision! So please choose wisely everyone!
Jing Yi
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