Living Simply
Woke up today and witness too many people being sad on social media, hence I felt the need to blog.
CHANGE.
I must admit, change is a big word to me. I'm afraid of changes in my life, I'm afraid of losing things that I cherish, I'm afraid of failing my best subjects, I'm afraid of the ever changing numbers on the weighing scale, and I'm definitely afraid of society.
With so many fears within me, some might start to question, "Then why are you still so smiley every single time?"
For people who know me really well, you will know that I too, have my ups and downs in life, but for people who don't, I really do seem smiley to them all the time.
For me, I am not the type of person who gets sad or angry easily because I usually just sleep it off.
However, because I don't really face my problems, it usually avalanches into something more serious, like getting easily depressed over little stuff.
This is where I start to get all emotional, and people start comforting me, which will then make me guilty because I'm known for being cheerful, smiley, basically like a happy pill. When I feel guilty, I will then try to be happy again, by telling myself that I have to let go of everything that's bothering me in my mind. I need to start afresh again, I can no longer continue the way I am going at that moment, and I shall never be depressed again.
That's what I usually tell myself when I feel really depressed, so that's probably the reason why people hardly see the depressed side of me because I recover from it easily.
Due to the fact that I have been listening to my friends' problems and of course experiencing depressing events in my 16 years of living (not a lot, I know), I came to a conclusion that living simply is the way to go if you want to be happy.
Living simply isn't something easy for one to do especially in today's society. With the ever changing society, one cannot expect what will come in his/her future. However, one can definitely embrace his/her present and live life to the fullest.
Why bother about the judgemental eyes in school? Why feeling bothered about how people will think of you when you post more than 3 pictures on instagram in a day? Why restrict yourself to that certain group of friends, you feel unhappy with? Why feeling like you don't have the rights to have a boyfriend/girlfriend just because you are fat?
As a student who is bigger in size than average girls, I do have low self-esteem whenever I see pretty and skinny girls around in school. However if I'm going to wallow in self-pity, by talking about my weight every single day and about how I would be more attractive if I'm skinnier, I will never be happy. In fact, I would be depressed about how my weight isn't going down no matter how hard I try to slim down and how I will never be like the skinny girls in school.
Nevertheless, I choose to be happy with who I am. Yes, I am fat, but I cannot disregard the fact that I have a bright personality.
Though some of you know that I want to slim down and have been trying ways to, I just want to clarify that by doing so doesn't mean that I am unhappy with myself and I'm definitely not wanting to change my appearance just because others called me "fat". I am still happy with who I am.
By wanting to slim down, I just want the best for myself, I'm taking care of myself so that I can live longer. Also, by wanting to slim down doesn't mean that I want to go to the extend of making myself just skin and bones only which some people think is attractive. No. I am going to be who I want to be, and how I want to look but not how people think attractive looks like. I am not born to please people in any way, I do what I want whether they like it or not.
In my perspective, living simply is just to mind your own business. Don't bother about how people live their lives, I'm sure they have something in mind for themselves. Even if they reach the lowest point in life, the only thing you can do, is to listen to them and give appropriate advice to them. You can't interfere their lives, we all need to learn how to be independent in some point of our lives.
Living simply, means that you do things you want to do. You don't do things because others are all doing it. You do what you want, and never let others affect you. Put your heart and soul into it and prove to those who tried to stop you from doing so wrong, prove to them that following the crowd is the worst idea ever and they will forever be under someone else's shadow unlike you who eventually stands out in the crowd.
Living simply, is being happy with whatever you have. You are only left with 10 cent in your wallet? Well, you can at least afford to make a call back home using the public phone! Left with only 1% of battery life on your phone? A great time to catch up with your friends and families! Broke your leg due to practice? Time to take a break! You have only one friend. Well at least you have a friend by your side! View things positively instead of always looking at things on the negative side!
Last but not least, do all things with kindness. Never adopt the mindset that to give, you must receive. If you always wait for people to give you back whatever you have given them, you'll never be productive because all you do is wait, wait and wait. You give because you want to, and not because you have to. When you do things out of goodwill, you'll make this world a better place to live in. People will slowly be influence by your kindness and will spread your spirit. Slowly, as more and more people adopt such spirit, we will be living in a world full of kindness, without strangers.
To summarise, to live simply, means to think simply. Don't complicate your thinkings and put yourself in a bad mood because there's so much happiness to spread around in this world.
Maybe right now, living simply isn't an easy feat, but as long as you've tried, you are somewhere near to living simply.
Spread happiness around and be happy always! :)
Jing Yi
CHANGE.
I must admit, change is a big word to me. I'm afraid of changes in my life, I'm afraid of losing things that I cherish, I'm afraid of failing my best subjects, I'm afraid of the ever changing numbers on the weighing scale, and I'm definitely afraid of society.
With so many fears within me, some might start to question, "Then why are you still so smiley every single time?"
For people who know me really well, you will know that I too, have my ups and downs in life, but for people who don't, I really do seem smiley to them all the time.
For me, I am not the type of person who gets sad or angry easily because I usually just sleep it off.
However, because I don't really face my problems, it usually avalanches into something more serious, like getting easily depressed over little stuff.
This is where I start to get all emotional, and people start comforting me, which will then make me guilty because I'm known for being cheerful, smiley, basically like a happy pill. When I feel guilty, I will then try to be happy again, by telling myself that I have to let go of everything that's bothering me in my mind. I need to start afresh again, I can no longer continue the way I am going at that moment, and I shall never be depressed again.
That's what I usually tell myself when I feel really depressed, so that's probably the reason why people hardly see the depressed side of me because I recover from it easily.
Due to the fact that I have been listening to my friends' problems and of course experiencing depressing events in my 16 years of living (not a lot, I know), I came to a conclusion that living simply is the way to go if you want to be happy.
Living simply isn't something easy for one to do especially in today's society. With the ever changing society, one cannot expect what will come in his/her future. However, one can definitely embrace his/her present and live life to the fullest.
Why bother about the judgemental eyes in school? Why feeling bothered about how people will think of you when you post more than 3 pictures on instagram in a day? Why restrict yourself to that certain group of friends, you feel unhappy with? Why feeling like you don't have the rights to have a boyfriend/girlfriend just because you are fat?
As a student who is bigger in size than average girls, I do have low self-esteem whenever I see pretty and skinny girls around in school. However if I'm going to wallow in self-pity, by talking about my weight every single day and about how I would be more attractive if I'm skinnier, I will never be happy. In fact, I would be depressed about how my weight isn't going down no matter how hard I try to slim down and how I will never be like the skinny girls in school.
Nevertheless, I choose to be happy with who I am. Yes, I am fat, but I cannot disregard the fact that I have a bright personality.
Though some of you know that I want to slim down and have been trying ways to, I just want to clarify that by doing so doesn't mean that I am unhappy with myself and I'm definitely not wanting to change my appearance just because others called me "fat". I am still happy with who I am.
By wanting to slim down, I just want the best for myself, I'm taking care of myself so that I can live longer. Also, by wanting to slim down doesn't mean that I want to go to the extend of making myself just skin and bones only which some people think is attractive. No. I am going to be who I want to be, and how I want to look but not how people think attractive looks like. I am not born to please people in any way, I do what I want whether they like it or not.
In my perspective, living simply is just to mind your own business. Don't bother about how people live their lives, I'm sure they have something in mind for themselves. Even if they reach the lowest point in life, the only thing you can do, is to listen to them and give appropriate advice to them. You can't interfere their lives, we all need to learn how to be independent in some point of our lives.
Living simply, means that you do things you want to do. You don't do things because others are all doing it. You do what you want, and never let others affect you. Put your heart and soul into it and prove to those who tried to stop you from doing so wrong, prove to them that following the crowd is the worst idea ever and they will forever be under someone else's shadow unlike you who eventually stands out in the crowd.
Living simply, is being happy with whatever you have. You are only left with 10 cent in your wallet? Well, you can at least afford to make a call back home using the public phone! Left with only 1% of battery life on your phone? A great time to catch up with your friends and families! Broke your leg due to practice? Time to take a break! You have only one friend. Well at least you have a friend by your side! View things positively instead of always looking at things on the negative side!
Last but not least, do all things with kindness. Never adopt the mindset that to give, you must receive. If you always wait for people to give you back whatever you have given them, you'll never be productive because all you do is wait, wait and wait. You give because you want to, and not because you have to. When you do things out of goodwill, you'll make this world a better place to live in. People will slowly be influence by your kindness and will spread your spirit. Slowly, as more and more people adopt such spirit, we will be living in a world full of kindness, without strangers.
To summarise, to live simply, means to think simply. Don't complicate your thinkings and put yourself in a bad mood because there's so much happiness to spread around in this world.
Maybe right now, living simply isn't an easy feat, but as long as you've tried, you are somewhere near to living simply.
Spread happiness around and be happy always! :)
Jing Yi
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